Historical Characters


I am very passionate about reading, history, and teaching.  I am always looking for ways to incorporate stories, books, & novels into my guidance lessons.  Middle school students seem to be a struggle for me.  It is hard to find stories that are on their level, that intrigue their junior high minds, and truly impact them.

It finally occurred to me that historical fiction and nonfiction have great stories to tell about important people that impacted our current way of life.

Here are some great books you can use with your middle school students that teach perseverance, character, endurance, and strength.  You can use these books during lunch bunch, group counseling, or classroom guidance lessons.


From Barnes and Noble:
"An epidemic of fever sweeps through the streets of 1793 Philadelphia in this novel from Laurie Halse Anderson where "the plot rages like the epidemic itself" (The New York Times Book Review).
During the summer of 1793, Mattie Cook lives above the family coffee shop with her widowed mother and grandfather. Mattie spends her days avoiding chores and making plans to turn the family business into the finest Philadelphia has ever seen. But then the fever breaks out.
Disease sweeps the streets, destroying everything in its path and turning Mattie's world upside down. At her feverish mother's insistence, Mattie flees the city with her grandfather. But she soon discovers that the sickness is everywhere, and Mattie must learn quickly how to survive in a city turned frantic with disease.
In 1793 Philadelphia, sixteen-year-old Matilda Cook, separated from her sick mother, learns about perseverance and self-reliance when she is forced to cope with the horrors of a yellow fever epidemic."

How can you use this book?
What was the problem and how does it relate to current issues?
What fears did Mattie Cook have?  What fears do you have?
How did Mattie problem solve?  How can you problem solve when things are out of your control?
What is perseverance?  How do you exhibit perseverance in your current life?

From Barnes and Noble:

"As the German troops begin their campaign to "relocate" all the Jews of Denmark, Annemarie Johansen’s family takes in Annemarie’s best friend, Ellen Rosen, and conceals her as part of the family.
Through the eyes of ten-year-old Annemarie, we watch as the Danish Resistance smuggles almost the entire Jewish population of Denmark, nearly seven thousand people, across the sea to Sweden. The heroism of an entire nation reminds us that there was pride and human decency in the world even during a time of terror and war.
In 1943, during the German occupation of Denmark, ten-year-old Annemarie learns how to be brave and courageous when she helps shelter her Jewish friend from the Nazis."

Oh MY, oh MY, where to begin.

This novel has so many educational opportunities for counselors.  There are numerous packets available on Pinterest.  The biggest discussion in this book has to revolve around making a stand.  Understanding that the right thing is often unpopular.

The connections about present day are endless with this novel.  Students need to engage in discussions about when they feel pressured to join in with a group, to bully, and to make wrong decisions because that is what others are doing.  The novel, Number the Stars, offers an opportunity for students to make connections about doing what is right, even when you are standing alone.

From Barnes & Noble:

"All Ida Mae Jones wants to do is fly. Her daddy was a pilot, and years after his death she feels closest to him when she's in the air. But as a young black woman in 1940s Louisiana, she knows the sky is off limits to her, until America enters World War II, and the Army forms the WASPĂ‘ Women Airforce Service Pilots. Ida has a chance to fulfill her dream if she's willing to use her light skin to pass as a white girl. She wants to fly more than anything, but Ida soon learns that denying one's self and family is a heavy burden, and ultimately it's not what you do but who you are that's most important."

Check out Barnes and Noble for other historical fiction novels for middle school students!





FRIEND resource



Digital: Divide and Conquer has a great free resource for teaching and reminding students how to be a friend.  This can easily be incorporated with your current bullying and friendship lessons.



 Here is a link to their site:

http://digitaldivideandconquer.blogspot.com.au/2014/08/how-to-be-friend.html




Thanks Digital: Divide & Conquer

The National Blue Ribbon School Program




During the 2013-14 school year, my husband was the High School Principal of Sudan High School.  Our school was nominated for a National Blue Ribbon.  I am so excited to share that Sudan High School received the award.

This is such an honor and I am extremely proud to be the school counselor of such a great high school. The teachers, students, and community members are amazing people to work with.  I could not be more proud to be a part of such an exemplary team.

Congratulations Sudan High School!

http://nationalblueribbonschools.ed.gov/awardwinners/14tx272pu_sudan_high_school.html

SHOUT out...



I love sharing ideas and I have to give a "SHOUT out" to another school counselor.

Her blog is:

http://www.adventurousschoolcounselor.com

Everyone MUST check out her play corner in her office.  (It is pretty awesome!!!)

She has great ideas and resources that can be utilized in your school counseling job!

Check her out!

Summer IS over



I hope you all had a wonderful Summer Break!!!

It is hard to believe that we are back in the swing of things and going 90 miles an hour, on most days.

I am finally feeling settled… Yes, settled begins 5 weeks into the school year.

Our Summer was spent moving, my husband starting a new job, traveling, and lots of family time.



Enjoying "coffee" on the F.R.I.E.N.D.S set (highlight of my California trip).


Welcome back to school!!!

Hope you are well rested and rejuvenated.

Putting Out Fires


We just completed our first week of STAAR testing.  My children have learned that during “testing weeks” mom works late and is a little on edge. 

It is a normal routine at our house, to ask, “how was your day?” 

My son said, “I probably shouldn’t ask you mom, but how was your day?  Let me guess, a little stressful?”  I told him that testing weeks are stressful, but I will certainly survive.  My husband, who is a principal and completely understands testing weeks, told my 7-year-old son that on testing weeks, mom is a Firefighter!  Of course, my children thought that sounded so exciting.

As the week progressed, I pondered on “Firefighter” and thought that is exactly what District Testing Coordinators are.  We are firefighters that walk around campus all day extinguishing the small fires and sometimes big fires we encounter.

As the week came to an end, we were driving home from dance class.  I listened to my children’s conversations in the back seat.  My son tells his sister that he loves nonfiction because it is all factual.  To his sister he said, “so tell me what you want to be when you grow up and I will explain factual.”  My daughter said, “I don’t know what I want to me.”  My son then says, “Think about it, what do you really, really want to be?”  My daughter, who is a stinker at times, responds with, “I guess you will have to wait until I grow up and then it will be a BIG surprise!”  My son lets out a sigh and says, “At least give me a little hint!”  She then says, “Okay, they work really, really hard.”  I roll my eyes in the front seat, thinking about how stubborn she can be with her brother.  Then, my son says, “Addi, that is easy.  You gave it away.  You want to be a school counselor like mom.”  “YEP! You guessed it!”

There are definitely times, during testing weeks, that I question why in the world did I get my Master’s Degree, why did I become a DTC, and why am I a school counselor.  Then, there are moments that occur and they remind me why I do what I do, and why I chose this path.

So, as we finish out the school year with all the many state testing exams, I will try to remember these lessons learned this week:

1. I am a firefighter, and we will survive & extinguish all fires that arise.
2. My kids know I work really hard.
3. Someone small out there thinks my job is really cool!

Teen Anger {book review}



Two of my favorite books for helping teens and pre-teens deal with anger are:



The Anger Workbook for Teens helps students know how to control their anger and learn how to feel calm.  So many times, you will find students that live with anger on a daily basis to the point where they do not understand what calm feels like.  The workbook helps students find healthy ways to express their feelings by creating a game plan and setting goals.

Mindfulness for Teen Anger is another great workbook I love to use that helps students discover the roots of their anger.  As counselors, we often have teachers that will say: "he doesn't control his anger, she gets mad over the littlest things."  However, as counselors we know that the immediate issue is typically not the root of the problem.  Students need to be able to find those underlying issues, so they can successfully move from anger to a state of happiness.





Poster Boards



Outside my office I have a magnet clip that I use to change out posters with inspirational quotes!  You will be surprised how many students comment and notice when I change the poster!

My favorite place to find fun and cute quotes is etsy.com

You can find an endless amount of instant downloads that are ready to be
printed and laminated!

(They have several educational posters to print)





Some of the quotes I frame or plaster all over my office door.

I also change out this bulletin board outside my office!

Just sharing a fun way to inspire your students!

Quick Meets



Meeting with 450+ students individually can be hectic.  I have learned that there are perfect times to grab students quickly and check to see if they need more that just a quick meet!  For instance, do your students have down time in the cafeteria at lunch once they have finished eating?  Do your students have a few minutes of downtime before the bell rings in the morning?  If so, then this is a great time to meet with students and gather some great information.

Once again, I use Google Docs to create a form that allows me to take quick notes.


One thing I added to this form was their grade level.  That way once I hit submit and it sends it to a spreadsheet, I can sort by grade level and make sure I meet with every student.

All children want to know they are cared for and that someone will listen.

Google Drive & Seniors



The Spring semester of school always brings on a crazy, sprint to the finish, hectic and busy time.  For those of you that have Senior students, it is time to begin some very important documents.  One way I keep track of my Seniors, is through Senior Meetings.  We have a break period, that I can sit in the cafeteria and quickly write down (type on iPad) all that they have completed.  I then, go back and set up times to meet with them individually in my office to help them finish up all necessary paperwork.  

I have found that a key aspect to getting Seniors successfully graduated and on route to their next endeavor is through active and open communication with parents.  I use a Senior questionnaire that contains specific items.  I then, print it and mail it home to their parents.  

You can use google docs to create a form.  I then walk around with my iPad and complete...

Make sure your Senior questionnaire has at least these items:

1. Where have you applied?
2. Where are you going to apply?
3. Checklist of items to be completed: (Housing, FASFA, Scholarships)

Utilize Google Drive.  If you do not use Google Drive to create forms, then start!  They save me so much time and all of my documentation is in one place.

Here is a screen shot of part of my Senior Questionnaire:




Student Name
What are you doing after you graduate?
 Have you applied to college?  If so, where?
What applications can I help you complete?
Have you completed your housing application?
Have you completed your FASFA?
Addition Notes

Once I hit submit, the form will keep track of all responses in a spreadsheet.






Our school has a FASFA officer that comes to our school to meet with Seniors.  He helps them gather necessary paperwork, obtain a pin number, and complete their application.

Happy New Year!

Santa Letters


The truth about Santa Letters...what they really say!

Ho!  HO! hO!

Santa Letters being published in the local newspaper might be a small town "thing" that occurs.  Even if those cute little Santa letters no longer get published in your local newspaper, your teachers may partake in this Christmas tradition.  Are your students still writing them?  Are they hanging on their lockers or on a teacher's bulletin board?

Well, our small town still publishes those cute little letters and I always hurry to get multiple copies for my children's scrapbook and all the grandparents.  However, this year as I was reading those Santa letters I was really shocked!  Yes SHOCKED!  I am not sure how I missed this, but Santa letters reveal so much about our students.  

My children attend the school that I am also a counselor for.  So, as I read through the Santa letters I noticed things about my students that I miss in the hallways.  I read about a little boy that wished for his mom to come home because he didn't know where she was.  I read about another student that was hoping his parents would make up for Christmas.  I read about a little girl that wanted money to give her parents because they didn't have any.  

Santa letters show so much that we often miss.  They really say, I need someone to talk to!  I am struggling at home.  

Take time to read those cute little letters, where ever they may be posted.  I certainly learned a lot that I didn't know before about the students in my hallways.

Enjoy

I hope you are enjoying your Christmas break and catching up on some much needed rest and family time.  Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year!

Don't forget to follow me on Instagram at KayelaHarrell or twitter Counseling Hearts @KayelaHarrell


Trevor Romain


Trevor Romain has wonderful videos for school counselors.  
This week, I used his video: " Trevor Romain: Cliques, Phonies, & Other Baloney" to 
discuss how to be a true friend and how to be yourself.  We also discussed how you do not have to change yourself in order to have friends.  Real friends accept you for who you are.


You can also rent his videos from Netflix, if you do not have the money to buy his videos.


Merry Christmas

Wishing you a Merry Christmas, from our family to yours.

A little Disney World Holiday fun...

Grinch Bullying

I am currently teaching a Bullying lesson over
You're a Mean One Mr. Grinch!

I start off by showing students a video clip of the Grinch at school from the movie.  Here is the Youtube Link:

The Grinch at School

I ask students how was the Grinch different from the other Whoville characters?
-He looked different.
-He was green.
-He was hairy.

The students made fun of the way he looked and the gift he wanted to give Martha.

We then read the story and I show them my little Grinch.  He comes out of a green bag...

I put together a packet for the students to work through.

(Mean, ugly, rude, stinky)


This page says:
If you are being bullied.
1. Tell them to stop.
2. Report it to your teacher.
3. Ignore, walk away, and think of your JOY.

When you are feeling sad or mad, if someone is upsetting you, don't let it bring you down.
Think of the JOY in your life.

Draw a picture of yourself in the O.
Write things that bring you joy in the letters J and Y.





I also created a page similar to the one above that asks
"Write adjectives to describe the Grinch's Heart at the beginning of the story."
(small, cold, mean)

I also included some coloring pages from free sites.  I just googled Grinch coloring pages.


Books to Share

I always have a book with me wherever I go.  I am currently reading:

Jesus > Religion (love this book)
By Jefferson Bethke

Start Something That Matters
By Blake Mycoskie (TOMS founder)

ASCA Journal

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.  So throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore.  Dream.  Discover."  -Mark Twain

During a time of grief



As I continue to grow in my profession, one thing I have learned is: Children Grieve Differently than adults do.  I have seen my fair share of devastating losses with the children in my schools (current and past).   It is not unusual to see children crying and then want to go play a few minutes later.  Children still pass through the stages of grief just as adults do.  However, children will look different.  Adults can grieve for a long hard time, whereas children can go through cycles or spurts.  Another aspect to remember is that children will grieve as they grow.  Years later, a child may miss a loved one during holidays or during a family time that triggers loss.  

Contacting the Family
Learning to speak to families during a time of loss is difficult.  This never gets easier, but my hope is that I continue to grow with this process.  Speaking to families during their grieving time can be challenging and it is easy to feel as though "we never say the right things."  A pastor friend always seems to know what to say and what to do.  I have learned the most from him. 

Some helpful questions and statements.
It is always important to express your condolences to the family.  Let them know that you are sorry for their loss.  Ask them, what can you currently do to help the family?  Let them know that your staff would like to bring food.  Ask them where the family is gathering.  It is also helpful if you can gather information about the funeral services.

Student’s Possessions
As soon as you are aware of a loss that affects a student, it is important for you to gather their belongings.  These are items that the family will want to keep and it is important for you to secure those possessions from their desk or locker, so they do not go missing.  These are cherished items for grieving family members.

I am not an expert, but I am always seeking information to help myself grow as a school counselor.  I hope you can take a little piece away from this post to help you with future grief counseling.

the {crawl}


i AM crawling to the finish

It is definitely December and I feel as though I am about to cross the finish line of Christmas Break.  Only a few months ago, I was packing a great lunch for my kids, had their backpacks ready, and clothes laid out the night before school.  However, at this moment I am doing the exact opposite.  I didn’t realize how I was completely failing at this thing called motherhood until last week. 

Addisyn came home with a star sticker on her face.  I asked her, “How did you get that awesome star?”  (Anticipating a great response like: I was quiet today, I was a great helper, or I was caught doing something great….)  Instead, her response was, “Mom this is what happens when YOU sign our discipline folders.”  My response, “Oh- so you get a star when mom does her mom job?”  “Yep, mom and you are not always the best at that.”

UGHHHH!  Yes, I sometimes forget to sign that lovely little folder that comes home every – single – day.  But I always look at it and it is always blank – which means my kids are doing good.  Although, their teachers repeatedly tell me that they talk nonstop.  HMMMMM… not sure how that all works, but it is working out for my kids!  So discipline wise- they are doing great! 

But let me say – in my defense.  I am tired.  I am tired of the spelling words, the nightly chapter books, & the math facts.  I know I am such a bad mom right now.  (I shouldn’t even be writing this post and admitting my defeat.)  I am an educator people!  I get the importance of all of this.  BUT- it is almost Christmas and I desperately need a mommy – school break.

Teacher Gifts

Christmas is in the air.
Bring on the cheer!

Here are some great ideas for Teacher gifts to celebrate the holiday season.